Long ago, I wrote a paper called How to Succeed in Graduate School: A Guide for Students and Advisors, that has been widely distributed on the Internet. (The original version of the paper was called How to Be a Good Graduate Student / Advisor.) It contains a lot of suggestions on finding an advisor and a thesis topic, doing research, writing the thesis, and establishing a research network, among other things.
The latest version of the paper is available in postscript form.
The paper has been published in two parts in issues 1.2 and 1.3 of Crossroads, the online ACM student magazine.
An HTML version of the original paper can be found at Indiana University's What Every New Grad Student Should Know. This page also points to Phil Agre's networking paper and other useful resources. Another HTML version is at the University of Maryland's Information for Graduate Students, another useful page.
You may also be interested in another website, Getting In: An Applicant's Guide to Graduate School Admissions, by Dave Burrell. A mailing list that may be of interest to female graduate students is the systers-students mailing list.
The paper was also reprinted in the IAPPP (International Amateur-Professional Photoelectric Photometry) Communications, and in a shorter form in Vivek, an India-based quarterly in AI.
Some of the references in the paper are incomplete (or possibly incorrect). If anyone has more complete bibligraphic information for any of the references, I'd appreciate it if you would send it to me. Comments and feedback on the paper are also very welcome.Marie desJardins, firstname.lastname@example.org